Trust Banking
Learn to Read, Accept, Build, + Repair
Love & Connection Services❋
There is suffering…
There is too much we want to change at once in our own minds sometimes… And then we find ourselves thinking about other people’s minds, too! And we find we are miserably distracted from the little joys of the present moment that can at other times amuse us…
And… The danger is not only imaginary! You would like to know what is certain and what is not, but you can’t… The stakes may even be very high.
Okay, we can only do our best, they say… Okay…
And so you would at least like to make your (or a beloved friend’s) “best” a little better, if you can...
That’s what this service is for: to invite you into presence through entry-points you can recognize and accept, and to support you with knowledge you can immediately use, easily remember, and constantly apply.
Take a break from the mental work of anticipation and discouragement to learn a framework that will change your experience.
Take in the life-giving peculiarity of the present moment, and learn a framework that will help you navigate the moments that intimidate you, hurt you, anger you, challenge you, or scare you into old habits. ❋
By being very present with each other, and by learning and working with frameworks that give us a way to understand each other and guide us towards empowering options, we can understand the unique and tender nature of trust.
Then, we can bring as much simplicity, ease, and joy as we can to our relationship with it, no matter what person is bringing it to life in our hearts, in uniquely painful or exciting ways.
Trust banking is about learning to read the account.
Not to keep score or turn love into a transaction, but to understand what's actually happening, accept where things stand, and become more intentional about what you accept and contribute.
A practical introduction to understanding trust, recognizing its patterns, and creating more security in your relationships—with yourself and others.
Who is this for?
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Couples, friends, family, or partners who want to understand each other better and practice navigating difficult moments.
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People feeling low trust in relationship, who want to understand what they're sensing and how to proceed without dismissing their concerns or jumping to conclusions.
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People who want to help a partner feel safer with them, and be able to navigate the small behaviors that build or erode trust with more intuition and confidence.
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Anyone who wants to ask for more, communicate a boundary, or express a desire without shutting down or coming on too strong.
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Anyone who wants to build self-trust, feel more secure in decisions, or stop abandoning individual needs to preserve relationships.
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Curious people who want to become more playful, emotionally perceptive, direct, or courageous in connection.
How does this work?
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We begin with a real relationship or situation within yourself that you want to understand better. We’ll learn a framework together that will give us a shared a language to express our perspectives through, and from then we’ll look at what’s happening together, and we’ll work with:
Trust deposits & withdrawals: Identify the behaviors, interactions, and patterns that build security or quietly undermine it. Explore what matters to each person and where your assumptions about trust might differ.
Inner parts work: Get curious about the parts of you that trust quickly, stay guarded, seek reassurance, withdraw, or react when something feels unsafe. Understand what they're protecting and what they need.
Body-based processing: Slow down and notice your responses to particular people or situations. Explore sensations, impulses, tension, and ease as information about your experience—without treating every feeling as proof that someone is or isn't trustworthy.
Compassion & perspective-taking: Make room for the feelings and needs involved without automatically assigning blame. Explore the difference between understanding someone's behavior and excusing its impact, and consider what accountability, reassurance, or repair might actually look like.
Time / Money / Structure
90 minutes · $85
These sessions are intentionally longer to allow the space for deep understanding along with learning and applying a new framework to your unique positioning.
Book as-desired for support in your missions, or when you have a specific situation to resolve or prepare for.
For regular support, talk to me about creating a custom session pack and plan.
What comes with everything
Every session draws from a flexible toolkit. We notice what's happening, experiment with what might change, and practice meeting ourselves and our lives with more presence.
Noticing
Bringing what’s happening into view.
Through inner parts work and body-based experiencing, we get curious about your inner voices, protective patterns, sensations, and impulses. With attention-sight, we explore how you direct your attention and what new possibilities become visible when you shift it. I also integrate the core desired feelings framework for meditation to help you become tuned into what you long to feel and discover ways to cultivate those feelings in your life.
Moving & Making
Learning by doing, trying, and creating.
We bring movement and physicality into the process whenever helpful, using role play, performance, and art-making to give new possibilities room to take shape. When talking isn't enough—or isn't what you need—we can work side by side on real-life tasks and challenges. Throughout, honest, supportive feedback helps you see more in the process and experiment with unhabitual ways forward.
Celebrating
Practicing a different relationship with yourself and your experience.
Through conscious compassion, gratitude practice, creative visualization, and Tao poetry, we practice meeting experience with greater tenderness, love, imagination, and appreciation. We make room to recognize what's already alive and alight while envisioning what else might be possible. We practice presence over self-abandonment: learning to be, and to walk with more peace and dexterity, even when you are afraid.
What does trust actually feel like, and how do you know when you're building it up, coasting along, or quietly making withdrawals from what's stored? This service equips you with a functional, reliable framework for navigating your experiences with trust with more emotional intelligence, understanding, and personal power. Bring a real relationship into the room, and we'll use it to explore and accept where trust is and is not, how to make or ask for trust deposits that resonate, and how to avoid making trust withdrawals unconsciously that might violate the reality of the present moment. Through inner-parts work, body-based experiencing, and playful deep-cutting compassion, we'll practice understanding what is connective versus distancing right now, and finding ways to build trust that are honest, uplifting, and real.
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