When did this relationship get so sticky?
In love and business, partnerships, friendships, and debates, there are some topics that can bog dialogue down between a particular set of people. You may see eye-to-eye easily about topics that you have positive, loving, supportive, and generous assumptions about each other for, and then talk past each other and take offense easily for topics that have been marred by past experiences where trust was compromised, where egos are high, sense of need to defend yourself seems critical, and so on.
Each sticking point is a chance to air out and tighten up your own philosophies, face and loosen your assumptions, and practice listening closely to what’s important about a certain tension that you have been presented with. What would you like your voice to sound like?
My love for philosophy of mind, desire studies, and creative writing make communication consulting and mediation one of my favorite forms of support to offer. Let me share my curiosity and focus with you to find a way out of conversations that go in circles, and a way to understand and enjoy the circles that must be.
Intuitive Mediation + Communication Consulting
$55 Per Hour
How do I know if this is for me/us?
You feel burdened by stopped-up, high-pressure, emotionally heated, or nonexistent conversations in your personal or professional relationships.
You know what your communication shortcomings or recurring faults are, but you aren’t sure how to improve them when you face stressful situations.
You have difficulty dedicating time to working on improving the dialogue for a topic that’s been painful, heavy, or frustrating.
You feel defeated by faults in your conversational partner’s communication habits and you aren’t sure what you can do about that.
You benefit from one-on-one conversations, feedback, and accountability support in your missions.
You may be interested in having a live mediator ground high emotions, track key points, and guide the focus for particular topics and tensions.
What do sessions look like?
My role fluctuates to suit each person that I work with! But I always focus on understanding the context and implications of tense topics, what each involved person feels has been tried so far, how they feel that approach went, and what each person’s intention is in engaging with the topic further.
Sometimes looking at the stories that have been echoing in everyone’s heads is the best place to start, and then beginning to get experimental and creative from there. Sometimes, it isn’t necessary at all. My focus is always on creating perceptive flexibility and balance, checking and appreciating our imaginations, and creating space for our intentions, flexible minds, and intuitions to have more influence on our responses, even when we’re scared, frustrated, or hurting.
When I am present, I listen carefully, ask energetic questions, note, organize, and reorganize important information, maintain neutrality and confidentiality, gauge, ground, and help interpret the meaning of emotional swells, offer observations, help everyone get a chance to speak or seize opportunities to speak when it serves them, share relevant stories and concepts, guide mood shifts and best times for breaks, recommend resources, and propose and guide spontaneous creative experiments and exercises for increasing flexibility, understanding, action, and love-centeredness that we can do and benefit from right now.
I work one-on-one to coach and consult on communication strategies privately for individuals, mediate dialogue directly for a two-person or group conversation in personal and business settings, and support conflict response choices through a combination of those roles.
The main thing is to keep the main thing the main thing.
— Stephen Covey
Peacefulness is the gateway through which abundance is received.
— Richard “Blackhawk” Kapusta
